Rewind and Pause

Sometimes I spend or waste to much time, overthinking things. Over thinking about what happened. It’s almost like a movie being replayed in my head stuck on repeat…over and over and over again. I love it when it’s good like a sweet memory. Ever so sneakily, one pops up that can rip off old scabs, bring up unwanted hidden feelings. Those are the ones that I find myself overthinking. Ones that if I spend to much time in, can really cause some “heart damage”. Damage that is called un-forgiveness, pain, hurt or even bitterness toward someone…if I let it get out of control. Not going to sugarcoat it. It’s very HARD to forgive or let it go sometimes. Especially when the pain runs deep. It can be a battle of the flesh, heart and mind at the same time. My flesh says go get revenge. My heart says “you still want the best for them, they just don’t know”. Then my mind is having a battle of good and evil right there in the mix of my to do list, thoughts about what I’m making for dinner tonight and if I need more laundry detergent at home or not. Its then I have to put it ALL on pause. So I can remind myself that If I keep looking in the rear-view mirror, my car will NOT go forward. I have to keep my eyes forward ahead to keep going. Looking forward gives me the power back to move away from the hindrance that was keeping me still. Eventually I will either run over the speed bump or drive right past the obstacle that was hindering me to begin with. (Philippians 3:14 I run straight toward the goal to win the prize that God’s heavenly call offers in Christ Jesus.)

Believe me there are times when it is easier to drive right up to them and give them a piece of my mind. There is no mistaking there, I have done just that…let a little CRAZY show. You can’t beat yourself up if you do, gotta move on from that too. (Job 17:9 The righteous keep moving forward, and those with clean hands (you) become stronger and stronger.) It takes time to heal and learn. To be able to move around them with peace.

I have been through some things I still have to “pause” about. Every once in awhile scabs get torn off again.The scabs will turn to scars, in time. Just reminders of how you overcame… It might take trying to talk to them, you might even have to separate yourself from them, writing out your feelings and  just having some time alone time with Jesus talking out the hurt. Then you will be able to look at what you learned from it. Then pause to make clear choices out of the heart, rather than the hurt.

When I think of how Jesus forgave a family who thought he was crazy, forgave a brother who doubted him, forgave a brother who betrayed him, forgave a brother who denied him, forgave people who mocked him, forgave people who tortured him, forgave people who put him on a cross to die…I have really no excuse or reason why I shouldn’t be forgiving the ones who hurt me. It’s not worth losing your peace of mind, sleep at night, wasted time you can’t get back thinking about a situation that is over with,  the little things you miss out on daily because the focus is gone. Do yourself a favor and move on. Your life will be better not bitter. Its then that the healing begins. Always remember even if you don’t feel victorious, you are. You’re worthy of a abundant life, because that’s the life God gave you!(John 10:10 The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows].)  SO don’t forget to…PAUSE.

       By Brittany Wright a Daughter Empowered with Boldness


Here are some verses to help refocus in time of need.

Isaiah 43:18 Forget what happened in the past, and do not dwell on events from long ago. (Do not worry, playing that movie over and over.)

Proverbs 17:22 A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.(Don’t worry, laugh a lot.)

Philippians 3:14 I run straight toward the goal to win the prize that God’s heavenly call offers in Christ Jesus. (Don’t let other things take away from the goal, keep your eye on the prize.)

Romans 8:28 We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose.(God has got you!)

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.(Don’t try to do it yourself, He has your best interest at heart.)

Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and show you the way to go; with My eye on you, I will give counsel.(Again God’s got this!)

Proverbs 24:14 In the same way, wisdom is sweet to your soul. If you find it, you will have a bright future, and your hopes will not be cut short.(Your purpose is on purpose and bright. Keep moving on!)

Isaiah 58:11 The LORD will guide you continually, giving you water when you are dry and restoring your strength. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring.(See even when you don’t have the strength, Jesus does!)

Exodus 14:14-15 The Lord will fight for you, and you can be still.” The Lord said to Moses, “Why do you cry out to me? Tell theto move on.(Don’t get in the way of God fixing it for you. Be still, quiet so you can learn to move on.)

Proverbs 17:22 A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.(Don’t worry and let that pain destroy you. Laugh loud and keep your joy!)

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if something is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things. (Fix your thoughts to good ones, don’t forget to PAUSE!)

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If I say nothing; how will they know? If I do nothing; how will things change?

Written by Tammy Berry


It’s so easy to become complacent, to stay behind our four walls and behind our fences. God has called us out among the people. He has called us to help, to serve, to set free those that are in bondage, to heal the hurting, and to befriend the friendless. To Love Our Neighbor.
Trust me when I tell you that I am preaching to the choir. There are times that I say, “but Lord, did you see what they did? Did you hear what they said to me?” They don’t deserve my kindness! They don’t deserve my friendship! I’m a Christian! You know how they are! You know they lie, cheat, and steal!
WOW! How awesome am I? Never forget where you came from!
Jesus went out among the people. Just look at the crew he hung out with. Could you imagine if Jesus would have stayed home and been like, “I’ll just stay at home and mind my own business. Maybe make a table or a chair. People are just too mean and ugly nowadays, it’s not safe God.” No! He knew the cost and it was too high. He knew His calling.
Don’t be complacent. Don’t think “there’s nothing I can do”. Jesus called all of us. So, even if it’s baking a pie for someone who just moved in or inviting someone to dinner you know is having a rough time, it’s an opportunity to show the love of Jesus. Don’t miss it, the cost is too high.


Hold on to my voice.


Be strong and of good courage ,do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the one who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.




Written By Deb Oliver

I just finished watching the movie Enough, one of my favorites, where this woman goes back and kicks her abusive husbands ___.

While she was learning to fight, her teacher tells her, as sure as this man is a coward He will kick you while your down, and in that moment he tells her ( hold unto my voice) and he tells her what she will need to do to take him down.

I felt God was telling me when you have been kicked and you feel you are down for the count and it looks like the game is over. You keep your eyes on me and hold on to my voice. ( Hear me Deb, hear my words and draw from my Spirit.)

Now rise to your feet, stand and be thou courageous, for I’m with you and I will never leave you, this battle is not yours but mine. Use what I have taught you and do not deviate. Hold on to my voice. Be brave. And hold on to my voice. Be brave. I will walk you through this.  HOLD ON TO MY WORDS!!!!






Choose Happy!

Written by Kaitlyn Van Wynen


Choosing to be happy everyday can sometimes be more than a challenge. It’s difficult to see the “happy” in your life when you’re broke or you’re lonely or when someone has hurt you. However the fact of the matter is that being unhappy is going to make whatever difficult situation you may be in even more difficult. When you’re not happy most of the people around you tend to find out very quickly, usually because you can’t seem to keep your mouth shut about all the horrible awful things that are going wrong. This can cause several things to happen; the people you’re around the most can start dwelling on their negative problems and then you’re in a constant toxic environment or it can cause some of those around you to walk away from you which sends you into even more of a funk because you feel you’re support system doesn’t want to listen to you anymore. I’m not denying that whatever you’re going through is difficult. There have been many times in my life where all I want to do is give up, run away from everything I know and just ask God to send Jesus back so I don’t have to deal anymore. After all my crying, screaming, venting, complaining and self loathing, a still small voice speaks to my spirit and generally asks me if I’m about done yet. Yes God, I’m done having my pity party. Despite all my depression and fear I’m reminded to put on a praise song, to open my bible and at least read one verse, or to pop that old worn out Joyce Meyer CD in the CD player. Slowly but surely I always realize that God has never ever failed me! While I’m singing “you’re love never fails it never gives up…” Or ” great is thy faithfulness oh God my father…” He reminds me of different times in my life that I have felt exactly the same way as I do now. He reminds me if I would just choose to not look at my problem as a problem, but rather as Him changing things around in my life, removing something or someone, then my happy would come right back. Instead of being angry and thinking why me again, I would remember to say thank you God again, for keeping me safe, for making me stronger, for protecting my heart, for increasing my faith. The problem isn’t the problem itself, it’s my crappy attitude towards the problem (yes I said crappy). I got knocked down, but guess what I’m going to choose to be happy despite the bump in the road, I’m back up and I’m faithfully, happily, gratefully waiting for my victory. Instead of telling myself or everyone around me the bad, I start talking about the good things going on now and the good things God has brought me though in the past. After all in Revelation 12:11 it talks about how we overcome “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony…” Jesus died for me already, so all I have to do to overcome my unhappiness is to start speaking those testimonies out loud. The longer the devil keeps you in your unhappy attitude the more he thinks he wins, don’t let him, get up and choose happy. You are the winner after all, God says in Romans 8:37 “Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” Don’t waste another moment of your precious time on this earth giving the devil the satisfaction. Remind the devil of Gods goodness in your life, that will put a smile on your face in no time!

Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing

Written by Tammy Berry


We all have people in our lives that love us unconditionally, would do anything for us, and have our backs.
But what about the people who don’t? We all have them; the people who for whatever reason dislikes you, hates you, who would love to see you fail. They seek to harm and persecute with a smile on their face.
What do we do with these people?
As Christians we try to walk in love, but there comes a point when enough is enough. Does God expect us to be tolerant of people who would just as soon see you dead? NO! That’s ridiculous, we are Gods children, as a mother or father would you stand by and let someone verbally abuse and bully your child?
Of course not.
Set boundaries! Remove These People From Your Life!
If they cause you pain – Remove them
If they use you – Remove them
Slander you – Remove them
Belittle you – Remove them
Interfere with your God given calling or ministry – Remove them.
I don’t care if it’s your relative, sister so and so from the first pew, pastor so and so from the pulpit, or your friends mothers cousin. Block their phone calls, e-mails, block social media, do whatever you need to do to get these toxic people out of your life.
The fact that you’re a Christian does not mean you need to walk around with a “kick me” sign on your back.
The Devil will send people to harm or hurt you. “Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. Matt 7:15
God will supply all that you have need of. Pray that he will send the right people into your life and remove the wrong ones.
What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ. Phil 3:8


Special Needs. Freedom From Pain & Guilt.

FB_IMG_1452546644244Written by Tammy Berry

Twelve years ago, my husband and myself decided to open our home to foster/adopt children. We had great expectations of changing their little lives and giving them everything they never had. We ended up adopting three children and although we didn’t know it at the time, one who was special needs.

We were sent from doctor to doctor, medications too long to list, hospital admissions, multiple diagnosis’s, therapists, counselors, court proceedings and finally residential treatment. Although, it’s been a hard road, I know there was no other alternative for my child. I was devastated. I thought as her mother I should be able to fix this and I couldn’t. I now look back and see how much damage was being brought into our home by mental illness.

I had to look at the big picture, the other children were living in a home of constant chaos, locked knife drawers, alarms on bedroom doors, and everyone wondering anxiously when the next meltdown would occur.

After she went to residential treatment the guilt I felt was unending. I still wrestle with this guilt daily, but I visit her weekly and bring her home for holidays. Is this perfect? No, but I look around my home and we are able to live peacefully, go places, enroll the kids in sports programs, our doors are unlocked but the scars are still there. My youngest has anxiety and is unable to sleep alone but is getting better. My oldest wants his bedroom door as well as mine open.

I don’t know God’s plan in all of this, but everyday is better. It may not have been the outcome that I wanted but my family is safe and when we are gone I know she’ll be taken care of. Is it hard? Yes! I would not have been able to this without God’s love, strength, and wisdom. I encourage everyone going through this to concentrate on God’s word to help you through the pain, guilt, anger, and frustration.
But those who are waiting for the Lord will have new strength; they will get wings like eagles: running, they will not be tired, and walking, they will have no weariness.

Isaiah 40:31


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